Where Can Single Women Find Quality Men?

Where Can Single Women Find Quality Men?
by: Megan Hazel

The decades may change but the song remains the same, women are forever lamenting that 'all of the good ones are taken'. They are, of course, referring to men, and the common complaint is that there is just no good place to meet quality men. We have a few ideas that suggest otherwise!

One great place to meet men is your local sports team's events. If you are athletic-minded, you can join an intramural sports league of your choice and be sure to meet other active individuals who share your interest. A volleyball or softball league will last a good few months and give you ample opportunity to get to know some great guys who are also into the sport of your choice! Many times after games, the members of the league go out for beer or wings after the games and this socializing can't hurt your chances of meeting a great date either. Sign up for a league, join a team, and take the step to get to know your great men in the community! Sometimes women are gun-shy about meeting men at the gym, but it too can be a great place for new beginnings. If you are at all faithful with your workouts, chances are you are there at least a few times a week and see the same faces. If you are, and if any of those faces (or bodies!) interest you, send a smile his way or make sure you need to 'work in' to the machines he is using and incorporate the same equipment into your workout. You can have a brief and friendly conversation without interrupting his routine.

If you're not the sports type, there are still a number of community groups or activities in which you can take part and you may be lucky enough to meet a great guy. Do you like acting? Take up an acting class, or try out for a part in a play at your local playhouse. You will have the opportunity to explore a fun, dramatic side of yourself and get a good look inside others' personalities at the same time. This is a fun way to check someone out without them knowing you're checking them out! Of course, if acting is a bit too scary for you or it's just not your thing, you can sign up for a dance class, a painting class, or yoga class instead. Any interest you have, really, can be transformed into a good excuse to reach out and meet someone new.

If you have children from a previous relationship, a good place to find like-minded people is at your child's play group. A "Mommy and Me" class, or your child's local swimming class or gym class can be a great place to meet up with single dads who obviously have something very important in common with you, they have children too! Usually, these classes meet at least once weekly for a period of months, which gives you plenty of time to get to know the prospective date. With these kinds of meet-ups, you can also rest assured that if something should spark, the prospective date knows that you have children and is accepting of that. It's great to know from the start that you have such a special common interest.

If you have a spiritual side, your church or synagogue can be a wonderful meeting place. Often, there are retreats that take place for weekends of spiritual reflection where you can really get to know the person in-depth in a short amount of time. Sometimes, your place of worship will offer singles mixers or dances as well. Even if it does not or you are not inclined to take advantage of a weekend-long event, you can certainly check out the same guy each Saturday night or Sunday morning from afar; there is nothing wrong with it! Perhaps after the service, if you have a coffee hour, you can strike up a conversation then. A similar way to meet men that is also altruistic is through a program your church or synagogue may sponsor. Programs like Habitat for Humanity, or the United Way, often have goings-on that not only do a great amount of good for mankind but allow you to meet other people who are kind and have a sense of community.

It can be tough to meet men; there is no doubt about it. However, you don't have to resort to the bars and nightclubs to meet quality guys. They can be right in your back yard and you don't even know it. All you need to do is get out there and explore your own interests, really, to find someone who shares them.


About The Author
Megan Hazel is a freelance writer who writes about relationship advice and dating topics, similar to what consumers read in http://www.magazines.com/ncom/mag?mid=1096 Cosmopolitan Magazine

Who To Avoid Online?

by: Vivian Johnson



Those of us that have been dating awhile can usually spot a loser within 60 seconds or less. But, our skills may not be as equally sharp online. That is why we have to be extra cautious.

Most of us have some “hidden secrets” neatly tucked away in one of our back pockets. When the time is right, we will very slowly ease it out. But we’re usually not dumb enough to just sling in someone’s face immediately. So, if someone displays certain characteristics from the beginning...? The people that didn’t even take the time to “hide” their issues until a more opportune time? Run....

Who to avoid online:

The ones that curse (or...cuss) constantly. When the newness of the relationship wears off, this will get real old real quick!

The person that is always flat broke. Never has a dime...never has the tip...can’t buy a newspaper from the corner...too busted to even flag down the ice cream man!

The meek little mouse that the entire world takes advantage of. From sun up to sun down, every person including total strangers are against them.

The lazy person, that can’t seem to ever find the right job for them! They don’t feel they are lazy, they just can’t find their dream job. So, in the mean time...they will just sleep on it...

The constant complainer. Nothing ever goes right. The neighbors are too loud, the waitress is too slow, the groceries are too high, they are paid too little, their corns and bunions hurt, etc.

The self-righteous person. They exercise everyday, they only eat the right foods, they are at their desk at 7:55 sharp, they stop on the yellow lights, they use the turning signal and sticks their arm out of the window...just in case. You will never be able to compete with the image they have of themselves.

These are just a few of the people you should avoid online. Before too long, I’m sure you will have a list of your own!

Dating Site Tricks

by: Vivian Johnson

There are so many single people online looking for love and companionship. That makes us easy targets for a variety of scams and tricks. Here are just a few...

The Fictitious Member- The fact that you have signed up for their free trial shows you are interested in their site. But, they would rather have you as a paying member. At the most opportune time...you receive a lengthy email from the man of your dreams!

This is the first time he has joined an online dating site, and personally doesn’t care for it. He is only looking for one good woman, and based on your profile...it could be you!

You join in order to respond to your “internet dream”. Only to have him totally disappear.

New Members In Your Area- Every few days, they will have a photo shuffle of all of the new members that are in your area. This is done for two reasons:

1. It gives you the impression that this site is continually getting new members in your area, so you want to stay here. If not, you may miss “the one” and you will have no one to blame but yourself!

2. By showing these photos, it will increase the email traffic to all of the members in the photo shuffle.

The trick? Most of these members (in the photo shuffle) are no longer paying members. So, when they suddenly have a mail box full of new messages, they will upgrade to a paying member in order to read and respond to the sudden boat load of messages!

They have killed two birds with one stone: you keep your membership current to keep from missing the new guys in your area. And...it increases the renewal membership from the men paraded in the photo shuffle.

As with everything else: If it looks too good to be true? It probably is!






About The Author
Vivian Johnson

I have been involved in online dating since it's inception!

Yes...I have received a diamond wedding set via FedEx, from a very eligible bachelor.

Wouldn't you like to be one of the most desirable singles on any dating site?